I struggled to keep them focused. They complained. I had to be firm. I had to redirected. I insisted. They resisted. I had to ask them (each on separate occasions!) to come out from a hiding spot. I know that it was longer than I've expected either of them to focus on this work for a while but - Eeeeek! This is not want I wanted, not how I imagined it would go.
There were nice moments! Here, Hug has the Australia Continent Box contents out & has (on my suggestion) 'invited' Lovely to look at all with him. He did a good job of talking him through it all, too.
The thing that got Hug really focused was when I showed him how to use my paper cutter. He did if for about half an hour before I asked him to choose a work from the cupboard because I felt like he was using it as a distraction from having to involve himself in any of the Montessori cupboard work.
Maybe that was a mistake? He was obviously enjoying it but at the same time he often doesn't like applying himself when he is *asked* to. I know that sounds kinda crazy to say when he's only 5 and a half! But, the teachers at his Montessori preschool struggled at times, I think, to get him involved in choosing activities especially anything challenging. He would have preferred to have just drawn or would get a bit silly. They had to lead him to the Maths & Language materials & he wouldn't choose them on his own to follow up on lessons. Now I know that we are all different and Hug obviously has a leaning towards artistic endeavours but he is also a really smart kid with an amazing vocabulary and lots of amazing ideas. He can work on following really intricate Lego instructions all by himself... I just can't see what the connection is, or more to the point - what I'm missing.
I originally got interested in Montessori when Hug was 2 because I really felt it would suit him. I felt that he needed & would love the opportunity to drive his own learning AND I also felt that he needed to learn self-control and everything that goes with that.
I don't feel that I've lost faith in Montessori at all but more in my ability to provide him the right environment to blossom in. I know that he wants to learn his own way - but he takes it to the extreme at times with refusing to be shown anything, lessons included. It kinda feels like he *wants* to *resist* any organised learning and when all I really want is to instill in him a LOVE of learning, that's a really sad thing :(
I'm not sure what to do. I don't want to force this work on them at all - but I do believe that it's important & that it's not asking too much to insist that we work on these things for a certain period of time.
I need help!