When your kids use a dysfunctional strategy to meet their needs, notice the deeper need they're trying to fill:Kids who compete with siblings often need to feel more valued for who they are.
Kids who keep pushing for limits usually need to know the parent is in charge and will keep them safe.
Kids who "don't listen" often don't feel heard.
Kids who are always rebelling usually need to feel more powerful and competent.
Kids who are always cranky usually need more sleep.
Kids who disrespect you are always showing you they don't feel connected enough to you.
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Oh so wise!
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Tracey